Most of us get so busy in our lives that we feel like we are Cinderella cleaning up after her ugly step sisters and evil step mother. There isn't time for the happily ever after part with our Prince Charming. The truth is, there is time to have that "whirlwind" romance, you just up have to make it happen. We let the romance fizzle out over time. We put our kids, our jobs, keeping the house clean, running ever day errands, getting the kids to their activities, I could go on and on with this list but I think you get my point.
I'm guilty of these very things in my marriage. We have had our highs and lows, bright sunny days and stormy ones too. Love my man with all my heart, but we both admit we both let romance in our marriage go to they wayside. So like many others, we decided to give our relationship a pulse again and start from square one, we are dating again. No, not other people but ourselves. Our kids are older now and we can head out for a few hours to go out to dinner, a movie, walk on the beach, grab a coffee at our local coffee shop. It's so important to keep things fresh in your relationship, to reconnect. If you don't, you end up on auto pilot and then you loose your connection with your loved one and you keep drifting apart like we did. This can lead up to worst case scenario infidelity, ( not in our case) or you get so disconnected from your spouse that you can't remember what you are doing being together still and you end up contemplating or actually getting a divorce. I don't think anyone wants to get to either of these states. So let the dating one another again begin.
Planning dates with my hubby is fun. We have a few places locally we like to go to and they are affordable too. Walks at your local beach or neighbourhood park, hit up a local cafe or coffee shop. I'm looking forward to a fondue date with my hubby at Mink Chocolates in South Surrey. There is also Wendels book store and Cafe in Fort Langley. We also love our wine. Check out the many local wineries we have here in the valley just to name a few, Back Yard Vineyard, the Fort Winery, Domaine Chaberton ( they have a great bistro). There is a great local wine shop, Everything Wine has a wine tasting bar also located in South Surrey and they have a location in North Vancouver. I'm a bit of a foodie, love trying new things and there are so many places to eat it's crazy. One other thing is we are getting out to the gym together. Getting our energy up and healthier is key too. Plus, I think it's kinda sexy seeing my guy work out.
The point is get out there and reconnect. Write love notes to each other, surprise her with a few of her favorite flowers or a tin of her favorite tea. Bake his favorite cookies or buy him a bottle of craft beer to try out. It's the little things that add up and show that you still care enough to put the effort in to your relationship to make it better, stronger.
So even if you have young children grab a sitter to just get out for an hour together, it's so worth it. We where very lucky when our kids where younger we had grandparents look after them. ( thanks grandma & papa). Or ask your friends who might be looking to babysit for you in return for you babysitting for them as we did this too and it worked out great. Romance doesn't just happen folks, you have to take the time to make it a part of your lives. In the end just Smile, hug, have that longer lingering kiss as you run out the door to go to work, hold hands, snuggle up on the couch, say, " I love you" often. The basics are the foundation to a strong lasting relationship and a healthy marriage.
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