Quit - To stop, cease, or discontinue. To give up or resign; let go; relinquish.
Life is a work in progress. There are hard days, and amazing days. Most of the time it all works out in the wash or 50/50. Like the word " Fat" I am not a fan of the word " Quit" either. Along the way on lifes journey, I have "pinned" my plans and goals on my imaginary cork board for starting up things at a later date due to unforeseen circumstances, but I to have to admit, I have quit on myself and it sucks big time.
I think quitting does something to you mentally. I mean I have quit a job that I hated to pursue one that I was better suited for. However, I am talking about quitting on yourself. Giving up on a dream, a goal. Why do we do that? Do we feel that we are not worthy of our own time and effort to pour into ourselves? We selflessly give unto others, but we give up on ourselves all the time. We give to our husbands, our children, family and friends, to our community with out even batting an eye daily.
I think it is time we take back some of our time to ourselves to be a priority. You are worth every single millisecond of time. What are some of your dreams and goals you have quit as a result of helping others? What did quitting do you and how did it make you feel? Have you ever thought of picking up your dream or goal up again? What is stopping you? Honestly, you have to be honest with your self. I know I have to be and it is a scary thought. I have goals that I have put on the back burner as I am scared of the outcome might not be what I have envisioned. I admit, I am scared of failing, looking like a fool. But I need to stop being full of fear and the what ifs. I need to be let go of the fear and face it head on. Stop letting your fear be the reason why you quit. Maybe we need to be scared and left the fear be what drives us to be great.
I have been out of the " normal " work force for 8 years. I have been lucky enough to be able to raise our kids, but I feel the need to get back to work at a steady Part time job with in the my current job. Yet I've been afraid to reapply for a job I know I would be great at due to I did clerical in the past but I've let fear hold me back from trying out. I need to let my fears push me to pursue rather than hold me away from my goal. This goes for so many other parts of my personal life as well. I know I am not the only one who faces these fears and quits on there dreams, goals and plans.
For example. I had an old friend in the past who was afraid to travel to foreign countries as they felt that something bad would happen to them, and it was always the worst case scenario. They let their own fears hold them back from seeing the world. They always had a dream to see the world growing up and then they quit that dream due to their fears. I'll give examples, they feared they would get caught in a bombing, in an accident, they would get robbed or their personal worse fear we being raped. They told me that their fears where brought on by all the horrific news they where watching and reading. Even tried to get under my skin to invoke their fears on to me. Heck no I was destine to see the world one day. I love to travel. But this is just an example of one persons fears letting them quit their goal and dream.
I guess what I am trying to get across in a nutshell is this. Don't quit. Don't let fear be your demise. Do not live with regret because you quit and let fear win. Conquer you fear, tame your worries. Be victorious, strive to be better. We all can accomplish our goals if you desire to. Carve out your "ME TIME" and get moving. Take that computer course, take that trip, dance on stage, write that novel, build that piece of furniture, paint your art, write your poem, start up your business, go back to school, do what ever you want to do, but just do it! If Fear looses, you WIN!!!
xo NYTS
Monday, 25 September 2017
Sunday, 10 September 2017
Owning myself and my hangups.
When I say " Owning myself and my hangups", I am speaking of trying to understand as to how I got to where I am today, physically, mentally and soulfully. These three components of each of our lives are all intertwined, wether we like it or not. The mental state we are in can effect the way we are physically and soulfully, and so on and so on. You get where I am going with this. I need to break these three components of my life down, so here we go.
Mentally. I have a few views in my head that I feel are on loop, kinda like a hamster on the wheel. Some days I feel amazing, confident and beautiful. I own my feelings, but they tend to waver. I then start the negative self talk. It goes like this,"Oh you know you be more attractive if you lost 70 lbs, People will respect you more if you weren't so overweight, Look at yourself in a mirror and see all that fat* on your body that so gross, God how did you let your self go and get so out of shape?", and so on. This part of my "loop" is debilitating Mentally, Physically and Soulfully, it crushes me. The last part of my loop is my inner cheerleader after my negative self talk. I puff up my self esteem and think, hey for my physical and mental health I know I have to move my body, it can be going to the gym, taking our dog for a walk, or just dancing in the house like no ones watching. It's been proven that if we move our bodies for even 15 -30 minutes a day it can help with depression and mental fog. I own my mental loop and what it does to me. I need to figure out how to remove that nasty negative self talk part of the it as I would never say that to anyone else in my life, why should I accept that kind of verbal assault about me? No one should. (* I hate the work fat and try very hard to remove that from my vocabulary. For me its like the "C" word for most women)
Physically, There are days I wake up and my body feels amazing and others I hurt all over. I have a sore mid upper back, my right Knee aches from many years of punishment in my youth as a figure skater and other injuries along the way and in my 40's planters facetious. At one time in my life I was super flexible, toned, in shape. I'm not going to lie and say I have health issues, thats why I got to be where I am physically. I'm owning the facts that I stopped caring, I got lazy and complacent. I would tell myself, "you had a rough day, you can start tomorrow". It became a habit. This is also apart of where my mental state would affect my physical state. I know what I have to do to be healthy, we all do and there is no magical pill out there, no fad diet to which we can live on forever. It takes hard work and eating a balance diet. No one is perfect not even those who grace the covers of the health style magazines (which are photoshopped I might add). I love my curves and hourglass figure, I need to have it in better shape and toned up. I'm not looking to be a size 4 but I would be completely thrilled to be a 14.
Soulfully, I feel beaten up. I have had my fair share of crap going on in my life, some which I have shared with you all here and some that are very private I tell only those closest to me or no one. When one is not Mentally positive and feeling Physically positive, it effects how ones soul and spirit feels. It throws you off centre, and creates a shit storm in your life. Taking time out do what's right for your spirit is the best thing anyone can do. Be it meditation, taking a hot bath with no interruption, a walk with nature. Recharge your batteries however you see fit.
Now I have proclaimed in my last blog that I was going to get my life in order and my ducks in a row. The process isn't going to happen over night to be healthy in all parts of my life, as it didn't happen over night to get to this point in my life either. It will be a journey with bumps along the way and that's ok. But owning who I am, how I got to here and now and knowing I can and will do better for myself is all I can ask of me. It's all any of us can do is own our B.S. and be better, healthier, happier versions of who we are. And if you have naysayers in your life, you don't need their negativity ruining your mojo, step away from them and surround yourself with those who are like minded in your new way thinking. Be happy, be joyful and love yourself completely. xo NYTS
Mentally. I have a few views in my head that I feel are on loop, kinda like a hamster on the wheel. Some days I feel amazing, confident and beautiful. I own my feelings, but they tend to waver. I then start the negative self talk. It goes like this,"Oh you know you be more attractive if you lost 70 lbs, People will respect you more if you weren't so overweight, Look at yourself in a mirror and see all that fat* on your body that so gross, God how did you let your self go and get so out of shape?", and so on. This part of my "loop" is debilitating Mentally, Physically and Soulfully, it crushes me. The last part of my loop is my inner cheerleader after my negative self talk. I puff up my self esteem and think, hey for my physical and mental health I know I have to move my body, it can be going to the gym, taking our dog for a walk, or just dancing in the house like no ones watching. It's been proven that if we move our bodies for even 15 -30 minutes a day it can help with depression and mental fog. I own my mental loop and what it does to me. I need to figure out how to remove that nasty negative self talk part of the it as I would never say that to anyone else in my life, why should I accept that kind of verbal assault about me? No one should. (* I hate the work fat and try very hard to remove that from my vocabulary. For me its like the "C" word for most women)
Physically, There are days I wake up and my body feels amazing and others I hurt all over. I have a sore mid upper back, my right Knee aches from many years of punishment in my youth as a figure skater and other injuries along the way and in my 40's planters facetious. At one time in my life I was super flexible, toned, in shape. I'm not going to lie and say I have health issues, thats why I got to be where I am physically. I'm owning the facts that I stopped caring, I got lazy and complacent. I would tell myself, "you had a rough day, you can start tomorrow". It became a habit. This is also apart of where my mental state would affect my physical state. I know what I have to do to be healthy, we all do and there is no magical pill out there, no fad diet to which we can live on forever. It takes hard work and eating a balance diet. No one is perfect not even those who grace the covers of the health style magazines (which are photoshopped I might add). I love my curves and hourglass figure, I need to have it in better shape and toned up. I'm not looking to be a size 4 but I would be completely thrilled to be a 14.
Soulfully, I feel beaten up. I have had my fair share of crap going on in my life, some which I have shared with you all here and some that are very private I tell only those closest to me or no one. When one is not Mentally positive and feeling Physically positive, it effects how ones soul and spirit feels. It throws you off centre, and creates a shit storm in your life. Taking time out do what's right for your spirit is the best thing anyone can do. Be it meditation, taking a hot bath with no interruption, a walk with nature. Recharge your batteries however you see fit.
Now I have proclaimed in my last blog that I was going to get my life in order and my ducks in a row. The process isn't going to happen over night to be healthy in all parts of my life, as it didn't happen over night to get to this point in my life either. It will be a journey with bumps along the way and that's ok. But owning who I am, how I got to here and now and knowing I can and will do better for myself is all I can ask of me. It's all any of us can do is own our B.S. and be better, healthier, happier versions of who we are. And if you have naysayers in your life, you don't need their negativity ruining your mojo, step away from them and surround yourself with those who are like minded in your new way thinking. Be happy, be joyful and love yourself completely. xo NYTS
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